Tips for dealing with bad dates

Spending a whole night with someone you can’t bear to be with can feel like an eternity and is one of the worst ways to spend a date.

Bad dates can occur by going out with someone because the person is wrong for you or the date activity itself is not entertaining. Some dates go bad because of external circumstances such as bad weather or traffic jams, but these dates can become ‘shared experiences’ which can lead to a bonding that comes from shared hardship. So bad external conditions can be ignored as a bad date as the situation couldn’t be avoided and it doesn’t involve a personality clash.

One of the main problems with bad dates is that you are partly responsible. Why? Simply because you agreed to go out on this date to begin with. You could have agreed to this date as a favor for a friend or a family member but you said yes when you could have said no. Of course, once you have been on a bad date you will be a lot more cautious which gives bad dates a steep learning curve. So next time you will be sure to ask about this person or just say no if you can’t get much information. This will save you from getting stuck with a workaholic who can only talk of work, or someone who only talks about themselves or even a person who keeps quit making you wonder why they want to date to begin with. If you knew this person before going out then it shows that you really didn’t know them or that the date changes this person in some way so you will be more careful about accepting a date from someone in a similar situation in the future.

If you like the person you dated but got bored with the date itself you should consider what sort of suggestions you made yourself for this date. Did you agree to this particular dates venue or were you even asked for your opinion. If your dates didn’t ask you about how you felt about this dates activity then you have to consider if this person just ignored your opinion or just doesn’t know you very well. If your opinion was ignored then you have to consider if this person is the right person for you to date at this time or were they just nervous about pleasing you and you should give them another chance. Keep in mind that everybody has their own likes and dislikes and so if you got taken to a date venue that you have had a bad experience with so you can’t enjoy yourself in such a place, then this is something your date could not have known.

Sometimes it is best if you speak up about what kind of date you would like to go on. After you speak up, if your date still doesn’t ask you for your feedback you can safely avoid them as going out with them will most likely lead to bad dates.

To keep bad dates to a minimum make sure you give your feedback on what dates venues you are interested in. Ask your date about the kind of things they like to do and make a suggestion about a date venue you both might like.

If you can’t stand somebody very much and are not sure if you can enjoy a long date then make sure you pick a fun date venue so your date is not as important to your enjoyment of the date, as say an intimate dinner would be. If you are careful about who you go out with and where you go out then you can keep bad dates to a bare minimum.

Article Courtesy : Nicoles blog