When you are going on a blind date it is a good idea to make it a short one. Go out for coffee or drinks, at the most go for lunch. If you keep the date short then there will be less pressure on your date. This will allow you to scope each other out without the need to be worried about the appropriateness of who should pay the bill or maintaining a long conversation.
Plan to go to a public place with people around but not too crowded or loud. This way you can be safe and have enough privacy for a conversation without anyone’s voice getting drowned out. Of course, it’s a good idea to keep away from your regular hangouts so you don’t have to chat with your friends. Focus only on the date to learn about him/her and help you decide if a second date is worth it. A short period of time in a safe yet private place is perfect for a blind date.
Maintain a balanced attitude in your conversation. Don’t be sarcastic or condescending towards others. You don’t know what your date may or may not find offensive. Plus you will seem crude and disrespectful. If you are a guy and make suggestive comments then you will make your date very uncomfortable and it’s unlikely you will see her again. It’s also a good idea to keep away from controversial views such as views or organized religion or the state of politics unless you have already been discussing such things online or something like that before you meet your blind date.
The most important tip on conversation etiquette is to listen to your date. Ask questions to sound interested and to get to know about your date. Preparing a list of questions before hand might be a good idea to keep the conversation going. Ask open ended questions to learn what they value as this helps you understand their core. For example, what do you most enjoy? Or what makes you passionate? Or why do you like your present job? Etc. If you focus on specific questions such as asking about the years spent somewhere or how many vacations he/she takes, then there is little room for your date to provide information about interests them in their own words so you can get to know them better.
Remember to keep basic courtesy at all times. Keep your cell phone off unless you are ‘on-call’ in which case let your date know that you will ignore all calls except emergencies. Don’t expect too much from this date. It is a blind date so it will probably lead to nothing but it could lead to you making a good friend or even a fulfilling relationship. However, it’s best to go out just to have a good time getting to know someone new and that is it.
Lastly, make up your own mind about your date. If your friend is setting you up on this blind date, don’t ask questions about your date. Your friend’s opinions could bias you in one direction or another. It is best to prepare yourself and meet your date with a clean slate, so you can get to how you feel about him or her. Always read the top bestsellers on relationships and dating so you are up to date to the psychology of the opposite sex so you don’t sabotage yourself to faulty assumptions.
Learn while you date and you will have the most fun and educational experience you can.
Article courtesy : http://dating-and-seduction-tips.blogspot.com/
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